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Are you person A or B?

August 15, 2013

Scenario:

Your significant comes home from work and complains about how he/she had a long frustrating day. About an our later a topic comes up that bothers you. Your significant notices the mood change and asks what’s bothering you. You proceed to explain what’s bothering/upsetting you however, he/she tells you that he/she doesn’t want to talk about it/be bothered with that now because he/she had a long day at work.

Person A: You walk away and say alright we will talk about it later.

Person B: You express that you would rather deal with it now so you can move on.

Which person are you?

My simple response: You have a better chance of succeeding on what you work on!

Marriage/relationship is work also. As an individual in your workplace, you’re willing to go thru lengths or work on situations to prevent losing your job. So how is it any different in a marriage/relationship? You want the marriage/relationship to work then you put in the work. It’s easier to throw a situation under a rug for the sake of peace and move on but you can’t hide a huge pile. The more it builds the harder and worse the situation may become in the future even if it was minor.

I know I’m repeating what has been said by many and for years, however, as human beings we tend to forget or not practice what we think we know. So this was just a simple reminder of putting in as much work no matter how frustrated or tired you may be from work/school or day; what’s a few more minutes in resolving a situation at home?

What’s your opinion? I want to hear (read)…

As always loves, remember to love one another and be ready as you can be!!

Time for change!

February 26, 2011

Sometimes change is necessary; change promotes growth; change for the most part is good!

Seven years into the relationship, I am at a crossroad wondering if this is it. So I decided it was time for a change. I didn’t want another person in my life but knew I wanted change. With that said, I inquired about a program I came across weeks ago. Within weeks I was on a plane to South Korea. Yes, you read right South Korea. I signed a 4-month contract to teach conversational English in a private institution.

First week, I was miserable and cried every night but my late granny told me to suck it up and enjoy it. One month later, I loved it and extended my 4-month contract to 6 months. I can keep going on and on about the contract changes, but basically I lived there for almost two years.

After I moved back to the states, my fiancé and I became closer. We didn’t grow apart but we grew as individuals.

“Absence makes the heart grow fonder“

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How we met…

February 25, 2011

How we met…

(The shorter version)

After high school, I debated on whether I wanted to go away for college or not. I was accepted to three different Universities but the thought of moving far away didn’t stick too well. So I decided to attend a community college. A year later, I cross paths with a young man that I didn’t recall seeing before. Luckily, we had mutual friends. After getting the inside scoop, I found out he was a transient student from Louisiana but his mother resided in Florida. For weeks, we would casually greet each other but kept about our business.

I was part of a dance team that practiced 2- 3 times a week in the back of the gymnasium. Our practice time seemed to always be around the same time Mr. transient was playing basketball in the gym. Every time I walked into that gym, I would take a good look at him (slyly of course); I was intrigued by his smile, poise, even the way he ran across the court was appealing to me.

Our first actual conversation occurred when I approached him about a fashion show an organization I was part of was planning. I gave him all the necessary information and contacts but he then asked for my number. At the time, pagers were in, so I provided him with my pager number. Playing hard to get, every time he paged me, I didn’t call back. I had the young lady in charge of the show call him back with details about the event. A week later, he informed me that he was not interested in taking part of the show but interested in getting to know me. I thought he was handsome but didn’t want to let it extend any further because I knew he would be leaving for Louisiana at the end of the term.

Then came the next semester, as I am walking into a Financial Accounting class, I see him sitting on the right side of the classroom. I casually take a seat on the left side of the classroom. After class he approaches me and says “it’s okay for you to sit next to me tomorrow”. I couldn’t help but laugh but I sure did sit next to him every day after that. During the course of the months he asked me out twice but I politely said no because I wasn’t looking to get into a serious relationship. Finally, on his third attempt I said yes. He replied, “You’re lucky you said yes because this would have been the last time I would have asked”, I just laughed because I knew he would’ve asked again if I did say no. That was the beginning of our long awaited journey.

I’m glad I didn’t leave for college, or else I would have never met my other half. Or better yet, I’m happy he decided not to return to Louisiana or else he would have missed out!!

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